Too Young To Marry.

At this particular time, it`s actually past my bedtime. I usually sleep around 12am. And the time now is err 12.40am. Can still considered around 12 is it? :P I think, i never posted anything about marriage right? Or am i wrong? If I`m not mistaken, i never post any. I only posted about friends, about school, loads of work, about argument with besties, about datings and bla bla. Right? Something leads me to mumble about marriage. As I`ve been exposed with so many stories. Sometimes i get to know the stories by watching movies, reading novels, articles from news papers and so on. But this time, i heard so many things about relatives, mum`s friends and etc. And YES. They were all about marriage thingy. I just wondered and always asked to myself,

- Is that hard to stay in a marriage?
- BoyF/GirlF thingy is the same as Wife/Husband thingy?
- What else you want if you have married, you got your job, you have your own family, what else you want?
- The list goes on..

When i was at my auntie`s house, i listened to her story. I hope you take this as 'Iktibar'. It`s not that I told nothing good. I just wanna share. That`s all.

Apa nak jadi tu? Kalau perkahwinan dah bergolak. Isteri mengandung. Suami buat tak endah je. Bila si isteri ajak balek umah mak, bukan main liat lagy. Tarik muka bukan main panjang lagy. Bila dah masuk kereta, dah mulakan perjalanan, singgah sana jap. singgah situ jap. Padahal mak mertua dah panjang-panjang leher mencari, 'Manalah anak aku dengan laki dia ni? Dah sampai mana dah agaknya?' .Bila si suami nak balek umah mak dia, bukan main laju. Cepat jek nak sampai. Tak payah singgah mana-mana. Yang penting, nak sampai cepat !

Macam mana tu? Kenapa sampai dah tak sehaluan? Masa belum kahwin, si isteri tak nampak apa-apa yang buruk lagy pasal si suami. Nampak diam je. Tunduk je. A kata isteri, A+ kata suami. Tak membantah langsung. Tapi sekarang? Susah sangat ke nak sayang isteri? Si isteri tu tengah sarat mengandung. Dah 6 bulan dah. Bila isteri nak balek kampung, si suami buat tak reti je. Si isteri dengan perut boyot tu jugakla tengok mak dia. Drive sendiri. Tiga, empat jam pun takpe. Demi ibu tercinta. Salah ke si suami tu tolong bawakkan isteri tu? Bukan ke mana pon. Ke rumah mertua awak jugak kan? Perlu ke nak berkira bila hidup bersama?

Banyak lagy perkara yang terjadi. Isteri dah lipat kain baju elok-elok, si suami sepak balek baju yang dah lipat tu, pastu suruh isteri dia lipat balek. Apa benda tu? Tu ke caranya nak tunjuk kasih sayang? Apalah salahnya tolong sekali sambil-sambil tengook TV ke. Susah sangat ke? Oh susah eh? Abestu kau tak terfikir ke macam mana susahnya bila si isteri tu penat-penat balek kerja, sempat lagy nak uruskan rumah, makan minum kau, pakaian kau, basuh itu ini. Ada kau hargai? Banyak kali dia masakkan kau. Walau penat macam mana pon, sampai je rumah, terus masakkan untuk kau, kot kot lah kau lapar. Ni tak, dia dah sediakan semuanya, tinggal nak masuk mulut dan perut kau je, kau biar lauk tu tak berusik ! Lain kali dah makan kat luar, apa salahnya kau mesej atau telefon bagitahu. Susah ke?

That one is the first case. One story. I have two stories to tell. This one is the second case.

Dah ada isteri, anak tiga orang. Kau balek lewat malam. Selalu sangat tak balek. Alasan kau, OUTSTATION. Yela. Orang lain kerja, macam tak pernah outstation pulak kan? Dalam pejabat tu, kau sorang je paling sibuk. Sampai tak sempat nak jumpa isteri, anak-anak kau yang berderet tu. Tak sempatlah kan? Sebab kerja banyak sangat. KONON. Suatu hari tu, kau kantoi. Isteri kau dapat tahu, kau main kayu tiga. Dengan pelajar pulak tuh. Pelajar universiti. Isteri dia serang budak tu. Ha tahu cuakk ! Si suami tukar tempat kerja, tapi sekarang makin teruk perangainya. Tak balek rumah. Katanya ada kerja kat JB.

Ada suatu ketika tu, si suami dari JB nak ke KL, so mestila lalu melaka kan? Si isteri tinggal kat melaka. Si isteri dan anak-anak dah lama sangat tak jumpa. Berpakatlah dorang untuk jumpa kat R&R Ayer Keroh. Bukan yang Jejantas tu. Yang lagy satu tu. Nak dijadikan cerita, si isteri lambat sikit sebab beli barang-barang. Si suami teruskan perjalanan dia TANPA menunggu si isteri dan anak-anak yang dah dalam perjalanan dah pun! Salah ke kalau kau tunggu isteri kau kejap? Dahla anak-anak rindukan ayahnya. Macam ni kau layan keluarga kau. Bila dulu nak kahwin, kau kejar sampai dapat. Bila kau dah bosan, bukan nak fikir, apa sebab musabab kau bosan, tapi kau ketepikan terus keluarga kau. Apalah nak jadi..

That was the story. So what can you say about that? In life right now. I still have no idea whether i WILL get married or not. If i cannot find the right one for me, i think i wanna be single forever rather than marrying those kind of man. But my question now, can you confirmed that your choice will be the best? And is he/she will not changed forever? How will you cope that?

It`s hard facing life that full with problems right? And life with no problems feels like you`re a zombie or something. All I can say is, do your prayers, love your family, your friends. Love people as many as you can because there`s nothing much to hate actually. Unless you have problem with that person. Last but not least, be responsible of what you do, think wise before you made any decision. Nothing can change you unless you yourself.


Nite buddies. Sleep tight (: